EASTER CELEBRATION

 

I remember the night before Easter when my late grandmother (peace be upon her) gathered all her grandchildren to sleep with them in their big house after the entire members of the family decided for a celebration the following day. 

I was still in my primary and among the grandchildren who was there to join the celebration.

Since my late grandparents owned a wide acres of land, mostly of their 14 children lives within the area just few meters away from the big house. Their house was built and erected in the middle portion of the land and was also made as venue for family gathering, assembly or any
special occasion to be held.

As early of the morning dawn, my late grandmother was already awake busy preparing for the Easter celebration. Since I was very observant, I was also awake watching what she had been doing.

When sunrise was about to glow, my late grandmother together with my late grandfather (peace be upon them) visited all the fruit trees around their house and every fruit tree they'd  passed by, they grasp and shake it  and at the same time in a very low voice uttering the words, "grow, grow, grow!"

I was wondering what does it mean and why they were doing such. I just kept on watching. After grasping and shaking all the fruit trees, they went back to the house and awaken all their grandchildren then brought them outside the house, telling them to jump three times and at the same time say: "grow, grow, grow!" "Grow, grow, grow!" The other grandchildren were cuddling the kids and tossing them up at the same time saying, "grow, grow, grow." "Grow, grow, grow!"

Few hours later, all their children arrived, each of them were bringing different kind of foods and placed it in a long table of the kitchen. When all the members of the family were present, my late grandmother called for a breakfast where everybody responded and my late grandfather led the prayer.

After breakfast, the entire family went to the beach for a picnic bringing some of the food left during breakfast. From there, the same entire family went home directly to the house of my late grandparents and spent the dinner together. 

My innocent mind kept on asking, why my grandparents were grasping and shaking the fruit trees including their grandchildren? 

Despite of such innocent query, deep in my heart I was very happy sharing happy moments to my family. 

Later, I've learned that the practice made by my grandparents was just a traditional Easter celebration!

 

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/the author

BASIC ROLES OF HUSBAND AND WIFE

The increasing complexities in highly modern world affect severally the ideal marital relationship among couples. Marriages failed. It is rare nowadays that marriage works at the couple's lifetime. Since we do not actually appreciate unsuccessful marriage but it happened and ends the marital bond.

Unsuccessful marriage mostly happened in Western countries because of liberalism. Not only that, divorce is applicable to their laws.  While in conservative society, marriage is lifetime bond and commitment.

While it is true that complexities of the modern world affect marital relationship, let the influence be apart from it. Let the marital bond prevails exercising fully its marital obligations.

There are times husband and wife failed to exercise their marital obligations but do not allow marital conflict rule over it.

 

If we could find ways to resolve marital issues, then, why not, so that harmony exist.

The basic role of a husband is a good provider, a good father and a good husband. While the wife's role is to take care of the household, the children and her husband. All of these responsibilities shall be faithfully exercised. In the presence of economy recession, the couple has to work together to let the family survives.

Property relations between husband and wife sometimes the source of marital conflict. There are countries that when it comes to conjugal properties, the husband and the wife observed Exclusive Separation of Property or Complete Separation of Property. The husband owned exclusively his properties including earnings without giving a share to his wife, the same situation also with the wife, especially when the wife has her own property or earning.

Situation like this deprived the rights of the wife when the wife has no income being dependent to her husband. This is one of the reason why the wife has to leave their home in order to earn for a living. This is not supposed to happen because the wife should not be exposed from hazards and bad influences.

For countries whose law is Absolute Community of Property,  this law is  just fair because both of them enjoy its benefits.

DID YOU FEEL BEING CHEATED

This is an evaluative article written  by the author to assess among ourselves what kind of  relationship we have in a family.

 

The author has no intention to offend anybody but just an evaluation.

The author came to ask "DID YOU FEEL BEING CHEATED BY SOMEONE YOU LOVE?" The answer, maybe yes or maybe no.

The query might not be worse to people who are still single but to those who are already married, it  might be a dreadful worse but everything will be alright when properly handled.

It is painful to bear when you fall in love with someone then all  of a sudden it turns out to be blue contrary to what you expect.

 

You did your best and fulfill everything to achieve happy and successful marriage but only to find out that  you have been cheated. You might say and ask, where did I go wrong?

 
Situation like this, usually affect to  women emotionally, physically and psychologically but for men doesn't feel much.

Let us know how this kind of relationship work to men. Seems they're not seriously affected. But, No, it's not. There are men out there  doesn't show what they feel. They will just keep quiet. Only to find out later, that they are now suffering with anxiety and depression if not under the influence of bad habit.

 

Thanks for reading!

INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIP

Interpersonal relationship have only two choices. The short-term and long-term relationship.

Let me share you some views.

Short-term relationship is transitory or faddish which is usually patterned to women who have been physically and sexually abused during childhood or before the age of 18 or abused adults whose respond indulged directly to cohabiting relationships as a means to stay away from marriage where the cohabiting partners are called lovers, boyfriend, girlfriend or paramour.

Long-term relationship is an interpersonal relationship recognized by law whose respond directly commit to public ceremony, marriage and civil union where parties involved bind themselves to a fruitful, healthy and strong relationship so as to achieve happy and harmonious relationship.

So, what's your choice?

FAMILY

When a man and a woman without legal impediments, bind into one and entered  into a contract of marriage, they are now called universally as  husband and wife.  Even those who lived together and continue cohabiting  each other for a period of five years without the benefit of marriage, such cohabitation considered themselves as husband and wife. 

This union allows the couple to  live in one roof,  share common ancestry, goals, long commitments, mutual love and respect to embrace a new beginning of life enticement and reproduce. The new path that the couple has chosen is to fulfill their dreams, desires, ambitions, and long commitments in order to achieve a happy and harmonious marriage.

In a family, the primary role of the husband is to respond all the  needs of his family,  being a provider. The husband  is oftentimes a decision maker in absence of the mother, however, decision making in a family does not only confine to the father but both. Whereas, the wife, her primary role  is to take care of the children, her husband and the household. 

The father should obligingly  provide all the needs such as  food, shelter, clothing, health, education everything that is beneficial to them.

The head of the family would be reputed as a good father and ideal husband as he faithfully exercise his duties and responsibilities, same with the wife. The purpose of the social union and exchange of vows is to keep the marriage relationship healthy.

During their union, the family consider their humble abode as holy sanctuary.  A sanctuary that full of life. When spirit of harmony dwells within, mutual support, love, respect, faith, honor and fidelity do likewise exist.  How happy a family can be when all  of these essential elements of marriage are attendant in a relationship.

Everyone of us wishes to have a happy and harmonious family.  To achieve such is a great fulfillment to everyone. Of course, nobody wants to severe a healthy and happy relationship but when a fast growing complexities  in a modern world influenced the union itself, and tend to severe the relationship, it would really end to  divorce. Hence, the union vow is failed. 

 

Imagine the  increasing number of divorce and broken homes tallied everyday. This is a noticeable remark that everybody should be aware of.

  So, do not  let the influencing complexities rule above yourself. Always do what is appropriate  and stand for good. 

/The Author